Abby Advice: Man’s opinions spark rebuttals

DEAR ABBY >> I would like to respond to “Ready To Bail in New Jersey” (Sept. 1), who was complaining about women being on their phones all the time. Does this man have any idea how much information and communication is shared electronically now? Work emails, school emails, group texts about various kid activities, and even grocery shopping are all done on a phone.

This is 2022. Women have a lot going on in their lives, and we use our phones to accomplish most things. We are not constantly just scrolling through social media. Maybe the women he was referring to are trying to avoid contact with him because of his ridiculous view of women.

— Michelle in Illinois

DEAR MICHELLE >> I warned “Ready” that my readers would have a lot to say about his letter and whether he is, indeed, a misogynist. Well, you all came through — in large numbers. Read on:

DEAR ABBY >> If you start a sentence declaring you’re not a misogynist, you probably are one. In that man’s case, make that a definite. If I had to endure his company, I’d be on my phone, too, calling an Uber to take me the heck out of there.

— Emily in Texas

DEAR ABBY >> I agree with “Ready,” but it’s not just women who do this. People of both sexes are constantly on their phones and oblivious to what’s going on around them. I’m a mom of three small children, and I love organizing play dates with other parents and kids.  Rarely are the other parents interested in chatting for any length of time or watching our kids play. They prefer to take photos for social media and scroll through their phones. I get it — we’re all tired and long for rest time. Still, I do feel that a good conversationalist is hard to find. Sometimes I wish this technology didn’t exist.

— Kassie in Maryland

DEAR ABBY >> Speaking man-to-man, I would tell “Ready” that he has no real understanding of women. Whether or not he’s a misogynist by defi nition, his view ofwomen is based solely on stereotypes and tropes. Most telling was his statement about“shopping, which is a female addiction.” What a ridiculous perception, no different than saying all men are interested only in beer and sex.

You need to be able to connect as a person. Can you speak intelligently about your work, interests, passions and goals? Can you ask questions about these topics, listen to the answers and engage in a caring conversation? If you can do that, the person is more likely to put down their phone and pay attention to you.

— Brent in California

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